Friday, February 18, 2011

Reflections on How We've Changed and What's Important

So I just spent the last while looking back over my old blog posts through out the past 2 years and seeing how much has happened/changed in our lives. I was just thinking that a little over 2 years ago we were buying our house, starting the remodel, and I was very pregnant with Elijah. Fast forward a little over 2 years and here is a little bit of how different our family looks:

Elijah is born
Major remodel of our house is basically done
We now own a dog
We've driven 4 children in an SUV to Washington State and back in 3 weeks
We've gone from one kid in kindergarten to now one in 2nd, one in kindergarten, and another in early preschool
My bow business has more than doubled in size
We went through a miscarriage and are now expecting again
My best friend has come to visit twice and we have gone to see her once
We learned about bats and successfully concurred them!
I've gone form anti-cooking to now gardening and canning
And....we are about to be a family of 7! WOW!

I am just simply amazed at how quickly our lives change. It doesn't seem like that much is changing, it's just when you look back you can't believe how far you've come in such a short time. I'm overjoyed at where we are in our lives. Yes we've had some pretty tough life lessons this year but we wouldn't be where we are today if we hadn't of gone through them. And as my sweet sister-in-law Miss Emily says, I'll look back next year and realize not only how much stronger Nathan and I's relationship is (which I can see already) but also how much stronger of a person I am. As I look back now I think well I guess I have changed this year. I don't know if I would call it stronger, I just see it as really realizing what is important in life. I see so much drama around me and I think really? Is it worth it? I hear 15 year olds acting like their life is about to end from some drama at school that day and I think...what major life event have you witnessed in your short 15 years? Have you lost a parent? Has your house burned down? What could possibly be that bad. I see things going on around me and all that wonderful drama on Facebook and I think really? How much of what seems soooo life ending to so many people today, will they even remember occurred 10 years from now? I guess I just changed my faded glasses of the past for more clear ones and see things a bit different now. I guess I just think that life is way to short to sweat all this drama. We aren't promised tomorrow and we have no clue how quickly our seemingly perfect lives can fall apart. I don't mean that in a dooms day attitude, I just mean that we should be thankful and feel blessed for the happiness we have because something ACTUALLY major could happen tomorrow. Then we will sit here looking back at just how petty and simple our drama from the previous day seems. I don't know, I guess that this past year has had me ask 2 questions when problems or drama arise.....1. Is this something that is worth all this emotion (will it change the path of my family or greatly affect one of it's members). More importantly perhaps 2. Is this an eternal issue (will this outcome of this event change either my faith, someone else's faith, or possibly lead or pull away someone from to or from Christ?) It kinda changes your whole outlook on life and everything in it. I don't think it's made me a glass half empty or morbid kinda person. I just think it's made me look twice at what really matters in my life, my faith, my husband and children (in that order), my extended family, and my close friends. I praise God for these things which He has blessed me with and I also praise God for allowing the rough times to show me how important the actual important things are in my life. God is able to take a hard time we go through and use it not only for His glory but also to sculpt us into the vessel He has planned for our lives.

I know DEEP, but it was what was on my heart so I thought I'd share it in hopes of encouraging someone else.

3 comments:

Joye Futch said...

Mandi, What a word!!!! I love and appreciate your attitude. It is the truth we fret far tooo often over the little things of life when most of it doesn't even matter in the end. I too and wanting to stop and be thankful and ENJOY my days and TRUST in God to take care of ALL. I love you all so much.

H. said...

My mom passed away about a month ago, and when it happened, my aunt (who took care of my mom so many times) told my uncle, I had a lot of issues with Sherrie, but I know none were eternal issues. And my uncle preached about that at her service, too.
When something majorly life-altering happens, it puts a lot in perspective. And I think about that now, when something makes me unhappy. I just ask myself if it's an eternal issue. And it never is. So it's easiest to let things go. Forgive, move on, be happy. Life's much easier when you're happy and at peace.
Wishing you the best! I was hoping my brother and his wife would be expecting a girl so I could get them a lot of your fantastic bows!... but it's a boy!
Congrats on baby # 5!
Heather

H. said...

Wait, congrats on having baby # 5! After re-reading, I was like, wait, I saw pics on facebook! =)